FINDING A SOUL-MATE?
I know...i know...by the time you read the title, you must have been thinking "Geez...that's new." - of course in the most cynical way. Or perhaps you might say "This writing is surely going to be corny." But, hey...i am not going to reject whatever you think about this title (or the whole writing at the end..:).
As corny as the title could be, i have to say i could not even believe i am writing about it right now. But then i told my self there would be no harm trying to write about it (hahaha..hopefully!).
I believe most people at a certain stage in their life get fed up about the whole-finding-a-soul-mate concept. Some of us have been told at early age that there is a soul mate for each one of us. I actually believed that sacred concept, especially when you were at tender (not to mention foolish) age of 15ish-when things were seemed to be simple back then :). Plus...some people have told me or in the most correct way 'brainwashed' me with the thought of: "Finding your soul mate is about someone that can complete you.", in which for a foolish age (no not naive but foolish..if i may say again..hahahah)that would mean finding a perfect-kind-of-soul-mate.
Ironically, as we get older this concept has not been simple after all. We messed up and even fucked up (oops!) during the whole 'finding' process. We (or i shall say me :), eventually realized that finding the perfect-soul-mate is not like having a luck to bump onto one right around the corner. It definitely involves a lot of hard works, and just to be precised, these hard works include:
1.For love relationship:heart broken, messed up Saturday nights and even desperado lonely nights out - where you tried to get drunk but not drunk enough :).
2. For friendship: a hell of stupid awkwardness!not to forget a significant decrease of loyalty and trust.
Some of us might thought that finding a perfect-soul-mate that will complete you is about finding someone that shares similarity with ourselves. Enjoy the same lifestyle, support the same political parties (yeah right!as if!), collect similar CDs and DVDs and more. That perfect-soul-mate is someone that reflects you as perfect as the mirror reflects yourself. And then, this whole similarity would come down to... same (irreplaceable) ego. Then, you would face yourself in the mirror and wonder "How can the perfect-soul-mate end up to be the perfect headache?".
I, once, met someone that reflects "me" so close i couldn't hardly believe. It's like having a mirror everywhere you are, it's like meeting your lost twins...and that was the scary bit. Finding your lost twins could be really tricky; you're happy because you finally found the perfect match or you're simply get more lost because you may not really share anything, especially if the ego has taken place and things could go horribly wrong and weird - imagine what kind of nightmare in having two-complicated you!.
Now, I begin to wonder whether this finding-a perfect-soul-mate has become more complicated compared to our parents' time? Could the concept has quietly evolved to being more "finding-your-missing-match?". Because as I think of it, having a-not-so- perfect and a-not-so-similar 'soul-mate' would not do much harm. So by the time we look at the mirror, instead of one person, there would be two people that fit just fine...and we can actually share those different kind of DVDs and debate our different choices of political parties :D.
One more thing, you shouldn't be worried about not finding your 'soul-mate' yet...if anyone (annoyingly) ask you "Have you find your soul-mate?", optional answers:
a. "Look, i am having a ball in finding them..so why rush?"
b. "Funny you mentioned it...but hey,who knows they will come around in ten minutes! (LOL)"
:)
-rie
As corny as the title could be, i have to say i could not even believe i am writing about it right now. But then i told my self there would be no harm trying to write about it (hahaha..hopefully!).
I believe most people at a certain stage in their life get fed up about the whole-finding-a-soul-mate concept. Some of us have been told at early age that there is a soul mate for each one of us. I actually believed that sacred concept, especially when you were at tender (not to mention foolish) age of 15ish-when things were seemed to be simple back then :). Plus...some people have told me or in the most correct way 'brainwashed' me with the thought of: "Finding your soul mate is about someone that can complete you.", in which for a foolish age (no not naive but foolish..if i may say again..hahahah)that would mean finding a perfect-kind-of-soul-mate.
Ironically, as we get older this concept has not been simple after all. We messed up and even fucked up (oops!) during the whole 'finding' process. We (or i shall say me :), eventually realized that finding the perfect-soul-mate is not like having a luck to bump onto one right around the corner. It definitely involves a lot of hard works, and just to be precised, these hard works include:
1.For love relationship:heart broken, messed up Saturday nights and even desperado lonely nights out - where you tried to get drunk but not drunk enough :).
2. For friendship: a hell of stupid awkwardness!not to forget a significant decrease of loyalty and trust.
Some of us might thought that finding a perfect-soul-mate that will complete you is about finding someone that shares similarity with ourselves. Enjoy the same lifestyle, support the same political parties (yeah right!as if!), collect similar CDs and DVDs and more. That perfect-soul-mate is someone that reflects you as perfect as the mirror reflects yourself. And then, this whole similarity would come down to... same (irreplaceable) ego. Then, you would face yourself in the mirror and wonder "How can the perfect-soul-mate end up to be the perfect headache?".
I, once, met someone that reflects "me" so close i couldn't hardly believe. It's like having a mirror everywhere you are, it's like meeting your lost twins...and that was the scary bit. Finding your lost twins could be really tricky; you're happy because you finally found the perfect match or you're simply get more lost because you may not really share anything, especially if the ego has taken place and things could go horribly wrong and weird - imagine what kind of nightmare in having two-complicated you!.
Now, I begin to wonder whether this finding-a perfect-soul-mate has become more complicated compared to our parents' time? Could the concept has quietly evolved to being more "finding-your-missing-match?". Because as I think of it, having a-not-so- perfect and a-not-so-similar 'soul-mate' would not do much harm. So by the time we look at the mirror, instead of one person, there would be two people that fit just fine...and we can actually share those different kind of DVDs and debate our different choices of political parties :D.
One more thing, you shouldn't be worried about not finding your 'soul-mate' yet...if anyone (annoyingly) ask you "Have you find your soul-mate?", optional answers:
a. "Look, i am having a ball in finding them..so why rush?"
b. "Funny you mentioned it...but hey,who knows they will come around in ten minutes! (LOL)"
:)
-rie
posted by akucupu @ 6:18 AM
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